3 Questions to Reflect on the Past Year

Dear Past, thank you for all the lessons.

Dear Future, now I’m ready!


It’s that time of year again when we’re caught somewhere between squeezing in all the work we want to achieve before the end of the year, and daring to think about winding down and having a bit of a break. Throw in the additional activities of Christmas shopping, prepping and partying and you find yourself in this weird mix of excitement and exhaustion.

Before the year totally escapes you and you’re either lying on a beach somewhere engrossed in the latest Liane Moriarty, or back in the office getting things done in the quiet emptiness, take a moment to reflect on the year just passing. It’s good for you.

In his brilliant TED Talk, The Happy Secret to Better Work, Shawn Anchor talks about how we cheat our brains of happiness by continually stretching the goalposts of what success is. With an ingrained formula of “If I work harder I’ll be more successful, and if I’m more successful then I’ll be happier” we put happiness at the other side of success and never get there because we always aim for more. Don’t let this happen to you. Answer the questions below to give yourself a few minutes of reflection to recognise, acknowledge and appreciate yourself and your achievements. All of which are also critical components of a confident mindset.


Question 1 – How have you been courageous this year?

Come on, be honest with yourself. I won’t accept ‘I haven’t’ or ‘I don’t know’. I know you have been brave many times this year. Whether it’s been putting your hand up for a new opportunity, going to a networking event, learning something new, asking for a pay rise, challenging an unfair decision, asking for help, dealing with a difficult person, quitting your job, seeking forgiveness, or any other uncomfortable scenario you’ve dealt with.

When we allow ourselves to see courage we open up to more of the same. Every step of being courageous will help to build your confidence and capability. Allow yourself to see your brave.


Question 2 – How have you grown this year?

You have grown. Without a shadow of a doubt. If you weren’t interested in growth you wouldn’t be reading this now. Open up your awareness to how far you’ve come, even if it doesn’t feel like you have. Take a few moments to reflect on your personal development journey this year.

Perhaps you’ve had a fabulous 12 months learning and growing in a new role or adventure. Or maybe it’s been a massively challenging year that you can’t wait to move on from. Either way you will have grown, enormously.


Question 3 – What are you grateful for about yourself?

We all know about gratitude and the benefits of creating a positive mindset. That doesn’t mean to say we do it. With this gratitude question focus specifically on what you’re grateful for about yourself. We have so much pressure telling us how we should look, think and behave it can be hard to be who we truly are, our quirky, perfectly imperfect, natural, unique and amazing selves. Embrace it! Embrace the unique and quirky, it’s what the world needs.

What body parts are you thankful for? What character traits serve you well? What makes you who you are? Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, or who you are, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.


“The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself.” – Mark Twain


While we’re on a roll why not ask yourself an additional question –

What habits can I implement to be successful next year?


Here’s wishing you a rewarding reflection on your past year and a stimulating start to the new one!

To your happiness and success!



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